When met with a disagreement, there are ways in which agreements can be reached. Having a proposal and a contract can help map out concerns, reasoning, goals for both the parent and child. In the example of John’s own son, John wanted his son to go to bed earlier. But when his son came up with a proposal to address his dad’s concerns—even using information from one of these webinars as a part of his argument to stay up later—John agreed that his son could stay up late as long as he met certain objectives. However, if those objectives aren’t met, then it’s time to go back to the drawing board.
Turning No into Maybe and Maybe into Yes, Part 1: Enhancing Behavior Development by Managing Noncompliance, Accountability, and Impulsivity