“Determination, persistence, grit, diligence and drive!”
- Your child can continue to learn about perseverance by continuing to participate in adventure activities such as the ones they experienced at SOAR. Take a family backpacking or rock-climbing trip together and encourage each other to push your limits!
- Highlight your child’s successes at SOAR as a reminder of the value of perseverance. Revisit their accomplishments by looking through course pictures, re-reading their Achievement Report, staying in touch with friends they made, etc. They can then see the tangible benefits of their perseverance.
- Break difficult tasks into smaller achievable tasks and celebrate each step toward the bigger goal. “Clean up your room” becomes “Please put your dirty clothes in the clothes basket- Great job!” Or “you do the dishes tonight” looks like “Please bring all the dishes to the kitchen-excellent…will you please pull out the trash can? Super!” You get the idea. If a child balks, break it down even further and key into your sense of humor (no sarcasm please!). For example, can you pick up your plate? Wonderful! Can you walk with your plate in your hands? Amazing! Can you find the kitchen while walking with the plate in your hands? Unbelievable! Can you walk over to the sink, while in the kitchen with the plate in your hands? Well done! Can you gently place the plate in the sink, then let go? Great job! Now, show me that again with my plate!
- Make sure your child has the prerequisite skills to complete a task before they get
- Model trying new activities and sticking with it. Your actions speak louder than your words! For example, if your child is into hockey, and you have never ice skated, pick a Saturday and go to the rink with them. Model for them, that trying a new skill or something that you have never tried before can be hard and at times frustrating. Failure, in this case falling down, is part of the learning experience. Get up, brush yourself off and move forward!
- Address the degree of perseverance needed. Start with small challenges and move up to more complex challenges. Let’s say your child wants a dog, but you are concerned about their ability to follow through with such a big responsibility. You might want to start with a smaller, less maintenance required, pet such as a fish or a bird. If they can show they can be responsible to the fish, a dog might be in their future. Or have them “dog sit” for friends or neighbors and see how they like the routine of taking care of a furry friend and if they feel they can make that long term commitment.
- Teach your child to “reboot”. Sometimes we tend to take on endeavors or tasks that soon become overwhelming and cumbersome. At that point we usually want to just throw our hands up and say “forget it!” When this happens, help your child break down and evaluate where and how things got so out of hand, then help them to strategize how to go about their goal from a different way around. Again, the APIE method helps here- Assess the problem, Plan solutions, Implement action plan, and Evaluate the outcome.
- If appropriate, help your child learn how to devise an exit plan. An exit plan includes how to wrap up any responsibilities they have taken on thus far in their current endeavor.
For more information or targeted strategies regarding your child’s specific strengths or challenges contact our Family Support Coordinator, Dr. Liz Simpson (Liz@soarnc.org).