Top 5 ADHD Parenting Tips
We’ve collected some of the top ADHD Parenting Tips in this article. From strategies and tips about behavior, how you can better respond to types of behavior, and ways to improve your child’s life through self-esteem, confidence and so much more. These tips are sure to help you make the best world possible for your child.
Tip #5: Guide by the Side.
Thinking about the way you teach your kids about the ins and outs of life. What is your teaching style? Are you a “Guide by the Side?” Or a “Sage on the Stage?” Both can be relevant in a specific situation. However, more “Sage on the Stage” can be detrimental to your child’s growth as a human being. Do they really hear you when you talk at them? Or do you think they get more from you when you guide them through situations, when you talk with them about mistakes they may have made or poor decisions. Asking questions can be a great way to move from being the “Sage on the Stage” to becoming a “Guide by the Side.”
Tip #4: Finding Hidden Strengths.
The message here is that some of the things kids do that we see as “bad” or even “malicious” can be considered or turned into extremely positive qualities. This message applies to all types of kids, not just those with AD/HD or Learning Difficulties. Is your child a procrastinator? Does he or she lie to get what he or she wants? Are they easily distracted? Oversensitive? Stubborn? The truth is all kids can have at least one of these qualities. There are strategies to work with these challenges in a constructive way and turn these behaviors into something overwhelmingly positive. For example, someone who procrastinates can be seen as “deadline dependent,” or “works well under pressure.” A child who lies or manipulates has potential to become a leader, an entrepreneur, a patron of a cause that can rally people to work together for something positive. Distractibility easily turns into multi-tasking. Sensitivity can be seen and used as intuition. Stubborn can be seen as tenacious, standing up for themselves, and their loved ones. The way you work with these challenges can make a huge difference in how your child carries into adulthood.
Tip #3: Impulsivity Happens.
Is your ADHD child impulsive? Well, it happens. Learning to guide it, and teaching your children to guide it themselves it the key to success with impulsivity. Impulsivity is the Ferrari engine that kids with AD/HD have. It’s simply impossible for a “normal” person to keep up! Over half of kids diagnosed with ADHD carry it into adulthood (NIMH Study), and teaching your kids how to deal with impulsivity can help them later when they’re on their own.
Tip #2: The Fourth Option
A touching story to say the least! Let’s face it, kids do impulsive things, as we’ve seen in the previous video. Sometimes, rather than consequences, these things could be held in the light, and even praised. The important thing here is what will effect your kid in the future. Was your pin-stripe suit more important than your child’s self esteem? Or would that boost of confidence stick with your child for the rest of their lives? It sure stuck with John.
Tip #1: Respond, Don’t React
Do you ever feel like you could have reacted differently to a situation your child presented you? Maybe you could have said things a little nicer, or maybe you were too harsh and it exploded in your face? Sometimes it’s better to keep your cool, breathe and respond, rather than react. With an open and clear mind, you can respond to your child’s needs without it blowing up in your face. Don’t get us wrong though, your child may still throw a fit! But at least it’ll be a lot closer to being under your control, and your emotional reaction will be out of the way leaving you to be calm and clear.
John Willson is a State Licensed Recreation Therapist (LRT), and Nationally Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist (CTRS). He lives in Balsam, North Carolina with his darling wife and two beautiful kids who also have ADHD. In addition, John is a nationally recognized speaker, co-coordinator of the Western North Carolina chapter of CHADD and national CHADD Board Member. Having grown up with ADHD himself, John has a tremendous insight into the inner workings of ADHD, how it effects people and children and has devoted his life to the betterment of the world for kids with ADHD through SOAR. Offering summer adventures and an accredited boarding school for ADHD, SOAR is a non-profit that works towards John’s same goal.